I feel like life is passing me by

Trisha writes…

“I feel life is passing me by, and I have accomplished little, even down to the ordinary everyday things and I feel I have lost the zeal and zest out of life.

I feel that I need to wake up and use my life and talents, although I feel I do not have any talents either — I just drift into each new day and accomplish nothing different from week to month to year on a continuous basis.

And I just get so annoyed with myself and take it out on those of my family, which is so unfair. I have no focus, goal, challenge, as each of these require time and money to join, and be involved in activities which I cannot afford, well only very few if I push myself. I take on courses with great zeal and then after a few weeks into it, any excuse and I will lose heart in what once was something I loved.

Why does this happen me? Sometimes I think ‘What is my life about?’ Where is it all going? Will I feel like this in 10yrs time?

I’m in my early 40s now and wish I had a dream, something of my own to attend to. I am envious of those who have the will power and motivation to change themselves.

I have all the books, on diet, food, health, positive thinking and still feel low self esteem and that people don’t find me interesting or want to become my friend — even though I have put myself out there, done the classes, am friendly, warm and kind.

But I do not tend to attract the same like minded people. I would really love to have a few good, trustworthy, loyal people in my life that I could be myself with, warts and all — and be accepted for my own personality and not compared to others which happens all the time. I am my own worst critic of myself. I would love to hear from you about all this.”

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© Evan Blaser

There’s a very true saying… “Laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone!” People want to be around happy people because we all affect each other with our “vibe” in very powerful ways. So people want to be with people that make them FEEL GOOD.  Continue reading “I feel like life is passing me by”

Chronic fatigue syndrome diet

I suffered the hell of chronic fatigue syndrome (ME/CFS) for 13 years. After years on the medical merry-go-round, I finally realized I was on my own — I had to heal myself. You can read the overview of what worked for me here…

How to overcome ME/CFS

I think the BIGGEST thing for me that turned things around was getting the diet right. A very simple diet of human food only made a massive difference… Continue reading “Chronic fatigue syndrome diet”

Schizophrenia / multiple personality disorder treatment

Many moons ago, I saw a long documentary about a young woman called Freda suffering from what was called schizophrenia, but would be more rightly called multiple personality disorder.

Multiple personality disorder is commonly called schizophrenia, although it’s not, and the error may come from the fact that schizophrenia is derived from the Greek words skhizein meaning “split” and phren — “mind.”

I have to say though, that in my opinion, mental illnesses do not fit so neatly into the boxes that science has defined. Science does this because there has to be a standard treatment, a drug to be prescribed or other “therapy.” There has to be some structure whereby mental illness can be understood… Continue reading “Schizophrenia / multiple personality disorder treatment”

Are intelligent people more prone to depression?

I think it’s true yes, and more prone to other mental illnesses too like anxiety, OCD, schizophrenia.

The human mind is hyper-malleable and the most intelligent mind, the most malleable of all. I often think of this issue as the difference between driving a Ferrari and a Mini. The Ferrari is more powerful, can go faster, but is also more dangerous, harder to handle, and perhaps is tuned so finely that it’s prone to break down :-) Continue reading “Are intelligent people more prone to depression?”

Am I gay?

Can’t stop thinking “Am I gay?”

We get this one a lot via our unwanted thoughts article, so I thought it would be a good idea to address this issue specifically.

What I’ve been finding with the questioners so far, is that, for them at least, this is purely about paying attention to a silly thought, giving it meaning and making a big deal out of nothing. Here’s why this is so common… Continue reading “Am I gay?”

Why am I getting worse?

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© Ashley Rose

The conditions for healing are not the ones that caused the problem to show up. And because of habit, the conditions most commonly remain the same.

And so, what caused the problem will deepen the problem over time because your body is already at breaking point.

To heal, the conditions must change and for conditions to change, habits must change because habit is the root cause. To change habits, you must be exceptionally clear about what to change, and exceptionally clear about how.

Except for accidents and illnesses that we’re born with, the causes of illness and health problems are always sub-optimal lifestyle over a long time frame. And lifestyle has many factors. Continue reading “Why am I getting worse?”

My mind is out of control

Nameless asks…

“I’m plagued by unwanted thoughts every day all the time… My brain constantly sees stories and things that never happened but they’re very vivid… like having a movie in the background with the volume way up… I’m constantly in fear of getting hurt and fear of pain. Now I’ll admit this could have to do with some events in my life but long story short I am constantly on a hair trigger to snap because I’m afraid of getting hurt… but this always ends up firing off at the wrong people… Help me.”

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Weed your garden

Basic info — you’ve got a weedy garden. Actually it’s well overgrown, more like a jungle :-) The analogy of mind to garden is very accurate. Thoughts are like seeds and you unwittingly plant and nurture weeds, before long you’ve got a jungle. This is the basic problem, good to know… Continue reading “My mind is out of control”

I’m scared of zombies and I can’t sleep

Katherine asks…

“It’s almost 12:30am and I can’t fall asleep. It’s a school night and I usually can’t sleep on school night for some reason, and on weekends I can fall asleep.

I’ve tried your advice, many other different websites on how to get rid of scary thoughts and how to fall asleep fast. None have really worked. I am scared of zombies, etc. and I know they are not real, but they still freak me out a lot.

I usually just close my eyes at night hoping to fall asleep, but I keep thinking there is some kind of demon looking at me. Please help! I’ve slept in my parents bed, but it’s even harder to sleep in there (and they don’t want me to sleep in there, they think I’m annoying lol). HELP!”

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No such thing as zombies

You have to know with absolute clarity that you’re in no danger. When you think about zombies and get scared, then you are really seeing them as a threat to you and you will go in a “fight or flight” state, which is to save your life when there’s real danger. You MUST see these thoughts as silly/funny and that will help a lot in getting rid of them… Continue reading “I’m scared of zombies and I can’t sleep”

How to get rid of dark thoughts

Nicole asks…

“Wow, I’m so glad I found this website because I’m literally going crazy. Okay, so I’m 18 and my issue all started out with anxiety due to some things, where I started thinking about all these ways I could die, etc…

When that phase passed I was just sitting in my room studying when my sister was listening to some song where it mentioned the devil. I started to think about all those movies I’ve watched, from all the exorcism movies to the paranormal movies and so on. I’ve watched them all because I loved watching horror movies! God knows why. So I started thinking these intense thoughts how that could happen to me, how all those movies were based on a true story, etc.

I get scared even more when I start thinking that me constantly THINKING about it, makes me IMAGINE something, or in some way call out “the bad energies” or whatever…

I’ve seen in a comment on your “scary movie” post where someone as getting up at 3am. I’ve also heard that that’s when the gates of hell open or something, so when I get up during the night the first thing I do is look at the clock, when it’s 3 am I freak out.

I’ve had panic attacks, anxiety attacks, you name it just because of this. I’ve been to counseling and other professional people, but yet no one actually gave me good advice except for breathing techniques that DID help, but the thoughts are still there. I try not to think about it… but if you tell yourself for ex: ‘don’t think about the pig’, you think about the pig, right? :P Please help me :(“

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Okay… so… ATTENTION is the volume control for thoughts. That’s the root cause. You’ve been giving attention and meaning to dark thoughts so it’s no surprise that it’s those thoughts that are rattling around your head, and surface on a regular basis… Continue reading “How to get rid of dark thoughts”

I have high anxiety and I hate being alone

Rachel asks…

“I’m only a teen, and I talk to somebody about my anxiety issues. She said I have high anxiety, and I also have nightmares. I HATE being alone. Even in my own house. I’ve talked to my therapist about meditation, deep breathing exercises, and muscle relaxation. But when I get to sleep and wake up from one of these nightmares, it just makes me sweat and breathe faster and faster. Tips?”

Happy Guide includes relaxation and meditation as part of a complete health system that gets to the roots of nearly all our suffering. So please read Happy Guide as your first step and you’ll see very clearly, the causes of health problems, what to do about it and most importantly… how to do it.

All problems have many factors, so you need to correct all factors to find the true cure and be happy and healthy. Happy Guide will show you what all these factors are and how to correct them.

Normally, I would say if you feel very anxious, the best remedy is to exercise. That’s because your body goes into a “flight or flight” state and so it basically prepares for exercise, to enable you to fight or run away, so it’s the perfect natural solution… Continue reading “I have high anxiety and I hate being alone”