“Michael, can you please tell me more about the topic of detachment?”
Detachment comes from staying in the natural meditative state of awareness. If you commit to the “Live in the Moment” chapter’s methods of meditation and flow, you’ll naturally become detached from many things that cause pain, because identification with thoughts causes pain, believing that happiness comes primarily from circumstances causes pain etc.
If you think of how happy children are, that happiness doesn’t come from things or ideas, but primarily from their state of being. So meditation CENTERS you, and frees you from ideas and beliefs that take you away from happiness, that is detachment. Continue reading “How to be detached”→
What does meditation do for you and what do you mean ‘go straight to the end state?’ I mean, if I could I would… isn’t that what I’m trying to do? How do I get there right away?
What meditation does for you
If I had to sum up the benefits of meditation in one word it would be this one: SANITY. You can break that down to…
Happiness is HAPPEN-NESS, playfulness is in the moment, love is who you are under the mind-chatter.
Once you’ve tried meditation for a while, you’ll see clearly that the way you were before was kind of like a bad dream, a bit mad, a bit insane.
The bad dream is the dream of ego — a false sense of self, caused by rapidly firing thought-habits you identify with.
Go straight to the end state
In a practical sense, the end state of meditation is a perfectly still mind. That’s the condition for all that love, joy and happiness. There’s a wonderful line right at the beginning of the famous Yoga Sutras by Patanjali that simply says; “Yoga is the cessation of mind.”
I recommend going straight to the end-state — why? Because you can.
You can just do it right here and now and there’s nothing difficult to understand about a still mind, you can do it. I know you can do it right here and now, because I once tried out the Happy Guide method for stilling the mind (listening for the next thought to pop) on someone in a highly agitated anxious state, and it worked right away. If it can work for someone in that state, it can work for you.
The beauty of the Happy Guide method of listening is that the method is so easily dropped… it’s the tiniest step from listening as an “activity” to just being — an effortless awareness. Other methods can be problematic in that their effect is temporary (you end up relying on the method) or they’re not easily dropped (they become habits themselves).
The mind has momentum
All those rapidly firing thought-habits you identify with have momentum. At first, having a still mind is hard to maintain for more than a few seconds at a time. Yet, the only other thing you need is a persistence to keep applying the very simple method, and trust that the benefits I said can be yours will be yours.
Habitual mind-chatter is a bit like being dragged along and pulled under by a fast-moving current. And when you apply the listening method for a few seconds, you’re able to bob your head up out of the water before being swept under again. It’s hard to maintain awareness for more than a few seconds because of momentum of the mind. But as you commit to the method more and more, you’ll be able to keep your head out more and more until soon enough, it’s natural to you, you’re free — you’re home.
Michael Kinnaird is the author of Happy Guide, the result of a 20 year exploration into what works for health and happiness.