Don’t be offended

“Beliefs are thoughts and thoughts aren’t me,
so ‘I’ can’t be offended, if you don’t agree.” :-)

© Joshjanssen

If you find yourself offended, taking things personally or getting upset by what people think or say, remember my little maxim.

It might help :-)

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XMRV — MLV retrovirus variants found in ME/CFS patients

Exciting new study results cause a big buzz

There’s a buzz in the world of “Chronic Fatigue Syndrome” — formally known as “ME.” The buzz is about the publication of an important NIH/FDA study that found MLV gag sequences (bits of virus to you and me) in CFS sufferers.

This is mega important because it confirms an earlier study that found the retrovirus XMRV in CFS patients.

Retrovirus

XMRV and MLV are related retroviruses that originated in mice and have crossed over to humans.

There are only 3 known human retroviruses — one of the others is HIV that causes AIDS. HIV crossed over to humans from monkeys… Continue reading “XMRV — MLV retrovirus variants found in ME/CFS patients”

Making progress in getting rid of unwanted thoughts

Ahsan asks…

“The progress is ok, but I need a finishing touch to really end this. By finishing touch I mean a killer to really end the whole of it. The thoughts are an “on and off” kind of situation and sometimes I am able to ignore but sometimes they still bother me.

It’s happened before that I think I have found a solution and then these thoughts get back again. The problem is that I am still feeling uncomfortable. I want to feel free, relaxed and light but there is still a kind of mental barrier.”

© Helga Weber

Please, please understand that this progress is immensely important. You should be overjoyed at this progress.

There is no killer other than “no importance — distract”, provided any supporting beliefs have been deconstructed — which is the case with you, since you know these thoughts are silly.

This simple method IS the killer but please, please be patient, consistent and calm about applying it…

KNOW that this method will result in the end of these unwanted thoughts that have plagued you for so long and that this knowledge and feeling will give you the calmness you need.

On and off is wonderful. Much easier to deal with on and off. When they come, simply notice the thought forming, give no importance and distract, remove attention back to what you were doing… Continue reading “Making progress in getting rid of unwanted thoughts”

How to stop the endless stream of thoughts

© Alicakes

Practice the art of “listening.” You can do it at any time. At first, it’s simple but very difficult to do.

Here’s what you do…

Don’t think, unless your thinking has a purpose. The rest of the time just “listen.” Don’t think, only listen to thoughts coming and going.

Notice… there is no thought…
Ah! There is a thought and it said “xyz.”
Notice… there is no thought again… Continue reading “How to stop the endless stream of thoughts”

How to meditate and be free from ego

… peace …

Don’t try to understand meditation intellectually.

While there’s a place for that, it won’t really help you other than to convince you to practice.

Meditation is ultimately about freedom. We are “possessed” by our own egos — our conditioned thought patterns and ideas of who we are.

And so we relate to life through a veil of concepts instead of directly. Our thoughts become the primary reality of our life instead of the direct experience

So, thought and ego are the possessors from which we must regain our freedom.

Meditation is the most powerful tool to do that — although there are, in my view, lesser ways that can help, such as practicing mindfulness… Continue reading “How to meditate and be free from ego”

Weight gain after retirement

Angelo asks…

“I have been gradually gaining weight since a little over a year ago when I retired from my job. At that time my doctor said I was borderline diabetic. Don’t know what to do to lose weight. Is it my age? Because I think I’m just as active as I was when I was working.”

© Mrd00dman

In your situation I would put myself on a strict diet. Not strict in the sense of difficult, strict in the sense of “the best food only.”

Happy Guide has all the solutions for you, explained in a very simple way.

There are 3 diet plans at different calorie levels and you simply pick one and stick to it… Continue reading “Weight gain after retirement”

How do you measure success in life?

How do you measure success in life?
How do you measure success in life?

Are you happy? If the answer is YES, then you’re successful. Happiness is the only valid measure of success, because the reason people believe they need lots of money for example, is because they think it will make them happier.

Having lots of money is a nice thing — it means you don’t have to worry about money. But having a fatter wage check, a bigger house or a better car… these things alone won’t make you happy, not in the long run.

I’ve known millionaires who were desperately unhappy, despite having every possession they could ever want. Is that a successful life?

There’s nothing wrong whatsoever with having beautiful things or being rich. The point is whether we are seeking the material to fill an empty void within that can’t be filled with these things. That just doesn’t work.

Continue reading “How do you measure success in life?”

How to reverse artery blockage

© Ollie Crafoord

March 7, 2010

This news demonstates the immense power of lifestyle…

[Press Association] Weight-loss diets can reverse life-threatening artery damage in obese individuals, a study has shown.

Low-carbohydrate “Atkins”-style diets, low fat and Mediterranean diets were equally effective, scientists found…

Tests showed that patients who went on the diets, lost moderate amounts of weight and lowered their blood pressure, developed healthier arteries.

Researchers used ultrasound to measure the wall volume and thickness of carotid arteries, which supply the brain with blood.

Thicker and heavier arteries indicated a build up of fatty deposits on the blood vessel walls, a condition known as atherosclerosis which is closely associated with heart attacks and strokes… Continue reading “How to reverse artery blockage”

OCD testimonial

This is a testimonial from my friend who is now living a normal life after suffering OCD for twenty years.

© Axel Cardenas

“I have known Mike since our children were about five. I had suffered with O.C.D. for a long time since my mid-twenties.

I confided in Mike about my anxieties and thoughts on food. He advised me how to deal with this. I couldn’t believe that it could be so simple, so I continued for years more trying to solve the problem, to rationalize it, only making things worse and worse… Continue reading “OCD testimonial”

Is the Happy Guide diet suitable for type 2 diabetics?

John asks…

“Can type 2 diabetics do a diet with all the fruit and juice?”

© Frerieke

The Happy Guide diet does not have any juice in it. I wouldn’t recommend juice for diabetics or anyone else.

There is fruit which is eaten as a starter or blended into a smoothie.

Fruit is a low-med glycemic food although you would probably want to stay away from bananas, grapes and dates and so on for the time being… Continue reading “Is the Happy Guide diet suitable for type 2 diabetics?”