A lot of feedback from our unwanted thoughts post was from young people scared half to death from watching scary movies.
So here’s some specifics for that particular problem. This was the actual list I sent a young girl so scared she slept with a bible.
I’ve kept this post very short to get to the solutions straight away…
Know this:
- You’re not alone — most people freak out after watching scary movies, even adults.
- YOU ARE SAFE. You aren’t in any more danger now than you were before… it’s just a movie.
- You won’t feel scared for long. It will soon pass.
- Scary movies are made to scare you, that’s their job.
- Part of your mind can’t tell the difference between a movie and real life. It’s THIS part that freaks out, but YOU know… it’s just a movie. Because of this, it’s best to be careful what you feed your mind — what you watch, think and imagine!
Do this:
- Do some exercise: You are in a “fight or flight” state so act it out — dance or run about, jog on the spot, do star jumps, skip, have a pillow fight, do some shadow boxing or press ups… whatever.
- Watch “behind the scenes” videos to take the realness out of the movie, so you see clearly; “It’s just a movie.”
- Do what you can to feel safe: Be with people. Get lots of hugs from your parents, friends, even a pet or a big cuddly toy. Use a night-light.
- Keep your mind distracted: Watch comedy, get absorbed in a good book, listen to relaxing music, anything you can to distract your mind. Each time a thought comes up, remind yourself “It’s just a movie” and distract.
- To help you sleep, play the famous lullaby tune by Brahms below. Relaxing soundtracks like waves crashing on the beach would also be very good. Then when it’s time to sleep, use this relaxation technique: Put all your attention into your feet, feel your feet tingling and relax them, then move through every part of your body doing the same thing until you fall asleep.
“I want to say that a while ago I saw this article, it was the night after I saw a scary movie. I haven’t really thought about it since like, 3 months ago! This really helps!”— Katie, USA
FAQ
Q PLEASE HELP ME!!!
A If you follow all the tips in the article as best you can, that’s the fastest way to get back to normal. It’s all there, everything you need to know and do. Please leave a comment below if you’re having trouble following the advice.
Q Why am I sooooo scared just from watching a movie?
A Your mind reacts instinctively to perceived danger and changes your physical and mental state in order to deal with the danger — the “fight or flight” state. We evolved in nature where danger was real, like lions, and your brain still works that way. More about this →
Q Why am I hearing noises in my house after watching scary movies?
A If your mind thinks “danger,” your body changes to a “fight or flight” state. One of these changes is that you notice sounds that you normally wouldn’t notice. Your house always makes these sounds but you normally filter them out.
Q Why are my friends better at watching scary movies than I am?
A We’re all different. If you were to measure fear reaction in you and all your friends, you would get what is called a “normal distribution.” Most people would be somewhere in the middle, a few would not be affected at all and a few would have an over-reaction. There’s lots of reasons why you react like you do… genetics, previous experiences, beliefs, sensitivity etc. Everyone is different.
Q If my friends are watching a scary movie, I have to go along or I will be left out. What should I do?
A Go along if you want to, but don’t get sucked into it. Keep moving your attention away and back, away and back… like… look at objects in the room, notice the objects in the background of the movie rather than on the action, look to see how your friends freak out at the really scary bits :-) And you can keep remembering “that’s just a guy wearing make-up,” “just back a bit is the camera crew and director.” All sort of tricks like this to “keep it real.”
If the music builds up and you know there’s a scare coming, close your eyes or hide behind a pillow! Lots of people do it and the rest will be too absorbed to see what you’re doing.
A few fluttery moments of thrill are what you want from a movie. Losing sleep over it means it wasn’t worth it.
You could take your own DVDs to sleepovers, and see if a great comedy can tempt people away from horror. If you know in advance it’s going to be a horror marathon, you could just skip the event. Your friends won’t ditch you over one blow-off, and you get to spend time with them you actually enjoy.
If you’re REALLY sensitive and know you can’t handle it, then just say “No thanks.”
Q Why can’t I sleep after watching a scary movie?
A As you settle down to sleep, there are no distractions for your mind, it’s just you and your thoughts. It seems as though you are looking at your thoughts through a big magnifying glass.
Whatever you fear, you will be reminded of — it’s just a primitive part of your mind protecting you against what you saw as danger. If you react with anxiety to your thoughts, your body makes adrenaline as part of the “fight or flight” reaction. This will keep you awake and stop you sleeping. Then a vicious cycle of more thinking, more anxiety and so on.
To prevent this happening, you need another focus and to stay relaxed. To do this, play the famous lullaby tune as soon as you get into bed. Put your attention on the music. This will give your mind something to focus on and the calming effect of the music will help you relax. When it’s time to sleep, use the relaxation technique (tip 5) to keep your mind off scary thoughts.
If you wake in the night, remember, “it’s just a movie, no real danger” and then immediately use the relaxation technique again until you go back to sleep.
Q What about movies that are based on true stories?
A Saying a movie is based on actual events is just a way to get you more scared. An unusual event is often used to make unquestioned false assumptions, distorted, and then built upon further to end up with a story that has zero truth in it. In short, you can safely assume that no scary movie is true. It’s just a silly movie.
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I like the guitar version of Brahm’s Lullaby. It’s very soothing. Thank you for posting this. I just love instrumental music!
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Thanks, this peice of music really did help me relax after watching a scary film.
Well thanks again.
Rebecca
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Hi Mike,
It’s not that I don’t know that my mum is right, I do know that she is but it’s hard to believe her when she’s not the one who has been through the way I feel right now. Your advice did help me feel more safe and I’m finding that I’m getting better day by day. I’m actually alright with having one full nights sleep and maybe not having much sleep the next night. And as for the advice on getting up and dancing I don’t really think that dancing at midnight would please my mum very much lol. I found one way to help me calm down when I get sarced, by listening to music until I feel better. Thank you for helping me but I’m just wondering if you had any idea when I’ll be fully recovered. If you don’t then thats fine either way thank you so much! xxxx
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Hi Katieann, hmm yes, dancing at midnight not good :-) Listening to music is in our list of 5 tips — I’m glad you find it helpful. There’s also a tune to listen to right before sleep because it’s so calming. How long? Can’t say exactly but if you’re getting better day by day and doing all the right things it won’t be long, maybe just a few days, getting better each day. The main thing is to follow the 5 tips because that’s the fastest way to get back to normal. You’re very welcome btw, let me know how it goes :-) Mike
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Hi well I watched a movie called Paranormal Activity ( I think thats how you spell it). Well I watched it over at my cousins house cos my mum was going out with some old friends from high school. My older cousin (she’s twenty one) said that it was her favourite movie and that it wasn’t scarey at all. And so I was like “Oh. Ok lets watch it then I can handle it no problem.” While watching it I was getting seriously spooked but I didnt tell them or let it show cos my cousin was sitting there all smiley. I got so creeped that I had to turn away at the ending. I’m still creeped and I watched the movie three weeks ago ( or four). my cousin said to watch it again with her and maybe I’ll stop being so creeped and start to like the movie. Please help me its affected everything I do. And not meaning to be rude or anything but please spare me with the whole it’s not real thing and that I should try and think of something else I already got that speak from my mom and once I’ve started thinking about something it doesn’t go away very easyly. If you can give me some suggestions on what to do to make me stop being sarced or to tell me how long I’ll be like this until it stops. So thank you very much for your time and goodbye! xxx
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Hi Katieann,
Sorry to say: “Your mom is right.” You can’t see it as the answer because the thoughts come and make you feel scared so quickly. It happens so fast and sucks all your attention in that it can seem impossible to stop.
If you feel unable to pay attention to something else, then get up and do something physical — dancing to music would be good. Read again the 5 “Do This” tips and get really clear in your mind how to react when the thoughts come.
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Thanks :D I Feel a bit better
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