How to meditate and be free from ego

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Don’t try to understand meditation intellectually.

While there’s a place for that, it won’t really help you other than to convince you to practice.

Meditation is ultimately about freedom. We are “possessed” by our own egos — our conditioned thought patterns and ideas of who we are.

And so we relate to life through a veil of concepts instead of directly. Our thoughts become the primary reality of our life instead of the direct experience

So, thought and ego are the possessors from which we must regain our freedom.

Meditation is the most powerful tool to do that — although there are, in my view, lesser ways that can help, such as practicing mindfulness… Continue reading “How to meditate and be free from ego”

What is the point of meditation?

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Meditation is the ultimate life-changing experience. The point of meditation is to set you free.

In a sense, it’s the only freedom really possible, but freedom from what? You could say “Freedom from anything that isn’t really you.”

In the ordinary human experience, what we believe as “me” or “I” is thoughts about the content of our life, our body, our mind — beliefs, ideas and concepts about ourselves. None of these things is who we really are.

It’s attachment and identification to these things that stops us seeing our true selves. So, we are actually “asleep,” in the sense that there is no higher awareness that can say “oh, that was a thought (or feeling).”

Just like when you’re dreaming there’s no higher awareness that knows you’re dreaming until you start to wake up and then you can say “oh, I’m dreaming.”

When you’re fully awake, you’d say “that was a dream.” If there is no higher awareness, then there is no choice. In the “normal” level of awareness thoughts and feelings become us, because all our attention is in them. There is nothing higher — like in the dream… Continue reading “What is the point of meditation?”

Why do I have crazy, disturbing or evil thoughts during meditation?

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It’s a common problem. We’ve decided meditation would be good for us and so we give it a go.

Then we realize just how turbulent our minds are.

When you look at your own mind from a “stand back” position, you really see how wild the untamed mind can be and the trouble it causes.

All good… awareness is the first step to change… very true… Continue reading “Why do I have crazy, disturbing or evil thoughts during meditation?”

The best habit?

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I’ve been meaning to write something about this for a long time so here we go. Now this isn’t set in stone but it’s what I’m thinking at the moment. The best habit in the whole world EVER could well be…

LISTENING

And what I mean by that is “the perpetual awareness of the space in which thought happens.”

Most of us think WAY too much to be happy. If we’re lost in thought, we lose the present moment and hence our joy of life… Continue reading “The best habit?”

9 ways to get rid of unwanted thoughts

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This is about the ongoing saga of my friend who struggles with unwanted thoughts and phobias and has been given the (I think unhelpful) label of OCD.

If you’ve not seen the original unwanted thoughts article then it might be worth checking that out first…

What’s happening as he works through his problem is that actually, his progress goes in spirals — sort of 2 steps forward, one step back type of thing.

His last setback was actually caused by just one late night. Just the lack of sleep for one night has made it more difficult to stay on top. Everything affects everything else… Continue reading “9 ways to get rid of unwanted thoughts”

The little known secret to stop TOO many thoughts

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My friend just called. You know, the one with “OCD”?

Well, he’s much better these days but now his mental problems have shifted somewhat. The anxiety and obsessive nature of his thoughts are much less but now he’s just getting “TOO many thoughts!”

An unpleasant way to be

Really, it’s the same solution as in the popular unwanted thoughts article. There has to be space between thoughts and an awareness of being a curious and passive observer of your own thoughts…

If you think about the opposite case — a constant stream of thinking and a sense that “these thoughts are part of me,” then you really have a very unpleasant state of affairs… Continue reading “The little known secret to stop TOO many thoughts”

Sit don’t wobble — Zen and the art of mindfulness

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When you are walking, walk. And when sitting, sit don’t wobble.

— Buddhist saying

Things that stick in the mind

With all the excitement of working on Happy Guide, I could feel myself getting hyped at times, thoughts rushing around, difficulty focusing on other stuff.

This made me put a few previously unconnected ideas together. Many years ago I watched a movie… The Long Kiss Goodnight where Samuel L. Jackson’s character repeated to himself what he was doing as he was doing it!

I’m walking to the fridge, taking out the milk etc. Said it helped him to remember things or something like that…

Very strange and curious I thought… it stuck in my mind that did.

Well, amazing… in The Miracle of Mindfulness, Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh tells us to do the same thing…

Continue reading “Sit don’t wobble — Zen and the art of mindfulness”