A lot of feedback from our unwanted thoughts post was from young people scared half to death from watching scary movies.
So here’s some specifics for that particular problem. This was the actual list I sent a young girl so scared she slept with a bible.
I’ve kept this post very short to get to the solutions straight away…
Know this:
- You’re not alone — most people freak out after watching scary movies, even adults.
- YOU ARE SAFE. You aren’t in any more danger now than you were before… it’s just a movie.
- You won’t feel scared for long. It will soon pass.
- Scary movies are made to scare you, that’s their job.
- Part of your mind can’t tell the difference between a movie and real life. It’s THIS part that freaks out, but YOU know… it’s just a movie. Because of this, it’s best to be careful what you feed your mind — what you watch, think and imagine!
Do this:
- Do some exercise: You are in a “fight or flight” state so act it out — dance or run about, jog on the spot, do star jumps, skip, have a pillow fight, do some shadow boxing or press ups… whatever.
- Watch “behind the scenes” videos to take the realness out of the movie, so you see clearly; “It’s just a movie.”
- Do what you can to feel safe: Be with people. Get lots of hugs from your parents, friends, even a pet or a big cuddly toy. Use a night-light.
- Keep your mind distracted: Watch comedy, get absorbed in a good book, listen to relaxing music, anything you can to distract your mind. Each time a thought comes up, remind yourself “It’s just a movie” and distract.
- To help you sleep, play the famous lullaby tune by Brahms below. Relaxing soundtracks like waves crashing on the beach would also be very good. Then when it’s time to sleep, use this relaxation technique: Put all your attention into your feet, feel your feet tingling and relax them, then move through every part of your body doing the same thing until you fall asleep.
“I want to say that a while ago I saw this article, it was the night after I saw a scary movie. I haven’t really thought about it since like, 3 months ago! This really helps!”— Katie, USA
FAQ
Q PLEASE HELP ME!!!
A If you follow all the tips in the article as best you can, that’s the fastest way to get back to normal. It’s all there, everything you need to know and do. Please leave a comment below if you’re having trouble following the advice.
Q Why am I sooooo scared just from watching a movie?
A Your mind reacts instinctively to perceived danger and changes your physical and mental state in order to deal with the danger — the “fight or flight” state. We evolved in nature where danger was real, like lions, and your brain still works that way. More about this →
Q Why am I hearing noises in my house after watching scary movies?
A If your mind thinks “danger,” your body changes to a “fight or flight” state. One of these changes is that you notice sounds that you normally wouldn’t notice. Your house always makes these sounds but you normally filter them out.
Q Why are my friends better at watching scary movies than I am?
A We’re all different. If you were to measure fear reaction in you and all your friends, you would get what is called a “normal distribution.” Most people would be somewhere in the middle, a few would not be affected at all and a few would have an over-reaction. There’s lots of reasons why you react like you do… genetics, previous experiences, beliefs, sensitivity etc. Everyone is different.
Q If my friends are watching a scary movie, I have to go along or I will be left out. What should I do?
A Go along if you want to, but don’t get sucked into it. Keep moving your attention away and back, away and back… like… look at objects in the room, notice the objects in the background of the movie rather than on the action, look to see how your friends freak out at the really scary bits :-) And you can keep remembering “that’s just a guy wearing make-up,” “just back a bit is the camera crew and director.” All sort of tricks like this to “keep it real.”
If the music builds up and you know there’s a scare coming, close your eyes or hide behind a pillow! Lots of people do it and the rest will be too absorbed to see what you’re doing.
A few fluttery moments of thrill are what you want from a movie. Losing sleep over it means it wasn’t worth it.
You could take your own DVDs to sleepovers, and see if a great comedy can tempt people away from horror. If you know in advance it’s going to be a horror marathon, you could just skip the event. Your friends won’t ditch you over one blow-off, and you get to spend time with them you actually enjoy.
If you’re REALLY sensitive and know you can’t handle it, then just say “No thanks.”
Q Why can’t I sleep after watching a scary movie?
A As you settle down to sleep, there are no distractions for your mind, it’s just you and your thoughts. It seems as though you are looking at your thoughts through a big magnifying glass.
Whatever you fear, you will be reminded of — it’s just a primitive part of your mind protecting you against what you saw as danger. If you react with anxiety to your thoughts, your body makes adrenaline as part of the “fight or flight” reaction. This will keep you awake and stop you sleeping. Then a vicious cycle of more thinking, more anxiety and so on.
To prevent this happening, you need another focus and to stay relaxed. To do this, play the famous lullaby tune as soon as you get into bed. Put your attention on the music. This will give your mind something to focus on and the calming effect of the music will help you relax. When it’s time to sleep, use the relaxation technique (tip 5) to keep your mind off scary thoughts.
If you wake in the night, remember, “it’s just a movie, no real danger” and then immediately use the relaxation technique again until you go back to sleep.
Q What about movies that are based on true stories?
A Saying a movie is based on actual events is just a way to get you more scared. An unusual event is often used to make unquestioned false assumptions, distorted, and then built upon further to end up with a story that has zero truth in it. In short, you can safely assume that no scary movie is true. It’s just a silly movie.
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Yeah thanks, these things I know, I know the movie isn’t real. But I know that the devil does, the evil does, and the ghosts are. These things happens at night, when I look straight at my reflection on the mirror I see… like a kind of a vision ! And thank you very much for the tips, I should give you credit for that !
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ONE NIGHT I WAS ON THE P.C ON FACEBOOK AND I WACHED SOME THING AND SOME ONE ONE THE P.C JUMPED OUT AND IT IS STILL BOTHING ME WHAT SHOULD I DO
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@ Katy… smile and ignore, every single time.
@Ralph… I disagree that the devil exists, I see evil as just anything that causes bad feelings and if ghosts are real, then I’ve never heard of one hurting a fly, much less a person. To sum up, you can relax :-)
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Please help !! After I read, hear or watch a scary movie/story I get so scared seeing my reflection in the mirror !! Like I’m going to find a ghost or something behind me, so please help me !!
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Hi Ralph, What you’re experiencing is a normal intense fear reaction to what your mind perceives as a threat to your life. These reactions are primitive, operate instinctively, just the same as if you came face to face with a lion. But the intelligent part of you knows “it’s just a movie” right? That’s important to keep remembering.
And now your body is in a “fight or flight” state, a state to save your life in real danger situations. So you need to “flight” — run away, in other words exercise until your state goes back to normal. This can take anything from a few minutes up to around 30 if you’re very fearful. And then follow all the other tips in the article too. It’s all there… everything you need to do. ~ Mike
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Can you help, im 20 and ever since i was 16 and watched nightmare on elm street for my gcse’s i constantly think freddie krugar will come for me, theres no pattern and thoughts just appear, i try to distract myself but i end up in one room of my house on my own with my son to scared to move, a midwife put me on mental health list but they couldnt do anything. dr wont help they just keep saying it will go with time, but its not going. Please help if you can i cant live no more days in fear.
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Hi Rebecca, I’m sorry to hear you’re suffering with this. It needs quite an in-depth answer… a different answer to “what to do if you’ve just seen a scary movie and you’re petrified.” I will put up a separate post about your problem later on today hopefully. In the meantime, there’s a lot of info you could be reading in the “unwanted thoughts” article. Have a read through all the comments too, especially the ones about fear. ~ Mike
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Hi,
Im 15 and have been reading the woman in black in my english class. Recently we were shown a clip where she appears at the window of a bedroom and floats down on the guy in his bed slowly whilst screeching.
Really having trouble sleeping due to the fact that the scene focus’ around the fact he is in bed when this happens. Need help asap :/
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Hi Greg, follow all the tips in the article and get back to me if you have any questions after putting it into practice.
Mike
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