A lot of feedback from our unwanted thoughts post was from young people scared half to death from watching scary movies.
So here’s some specifics for that particular problem. This was the actual list I sent a young girl so scared she slept with a bible.
I’ve kept this post very short to get to the solutions straight away…
Know this:
- You’re not alone — most people freak out after watching scary movies, even adults.
- YOU ARE SAFE. You aren’t in any more danger now than you were before… it’s just a movie.
- You won’t feel scared for long. It will soon pass.
- Scary movies are made to scare you, that’s their job.
- Part of your mind can’t tell the difference between a movie and real life. It’s THIS part that freaks out, but YOU know… it’s just a movie. Because of this, it’s best to be careful what you feed your mind — what you watch, think and imagine!
Do this:
- Do some exercise: You are in a “fight or flight” state so act it out — dance or run about, jog on the spot, do star jumps, skip, have a pillow fight, do some shadow boxing or press ups… whatever.
- Watch “behind the scenes” videos to take the realness out of the movie, so you see clearly; “It’s just a movie.”
- Do what you can to feel safe: Be with people. Get lots of hugs from your parents, friends, even a pet or a big cuddly toy. Use a night-light.
- Keep your mind distracted: Watch comedy, get absorbed in a good book, listen to relaxing music, anything you can to distract your mind. Each time a thought comes up, remind yourself “It’s just a movie” and distract.
- To help you sleep, play the famous lullaby tune by Brahms below. Relaxing soundtracks like waves crashing on the beach would also be very good. Then when it’s time to sleep, use this relaxation technique: Put all your attention into your feet, feel your feet tingling and relax them, then move through every part of your body doing the same thing until you fall asleep.
“I want to say that a while ago I saw this article, it was the night after I saw a scary movie. I haven’t really thought about it since like, 3 months ago! This really helps!”— Katie, USA
FAQ
Q PLEASE HELP ME!!!
A If you follow all the tips in the article as best you can, that’s the fastest way to get back to normal. It’s all there, everything you need to know and do. Please leave a comment below if you’re having trouble following the advice.
Q Why am I sooooo scared just from watching a movie?
A Your mind reacts instinctively to perceived danger and changes your physical and mental state in order to deal with the danger — the “fight or flight” state. We evolved in nature where danger was real, like lions, and your brain still works that way. More about this →
Q Why am I hearing noises in my house after watching scary movies?
A If your mind thinks “danger,” your body changes to a “fight or flight” state. One of these changes is that you notice sounds that you normally wouldn’t notice. Your house always makes these sounds but you normally filter them out.
Q Why are my friends better at watching scary movies than I am?
A We’re all different. If you were to measure fear reaction in you and all your friends, you would get what is called a “normal distribution.” Most people would be somewhere in the middle, a few would not be affected at all and a few would have an over-reaction. There’s lots of reasons why you react like you do… genetics, previous experiences, beliefs, sensitivity etc. Everyone is different.
Q If my friends are watching a scary movie, I have to go along or I will be left out. What should I do?
A Go along if you want to, but don’t get sucked into it. Keep moving your attention away and back, away and back… like… look at objects in the room, notice the objects in the background of the movie rather than on the action, look to see how your friends freak out at the really scary bits :-) And you can keep remembering “that’s just a guy wearing make-up,” “just back a bit is the camera crew and director.” All sort of tricks like this to “keep it real.”
If the music builds up and you know there’s a scare coming, close your eyes or hide behind a pillow! Lots of people do it and the rest will be too absorbed to see what you’re doing.
A few fluttery moments of thrill are what you want from a movie. Losing sleep over it means it wasn’t worth it.
You could take your own DVDs to sleepovers, and see if a great comedy can tempt people away from horror. If you know in advance it’s going to be a horror marathon, you could just skip the event. Your friends won’t ditch you over one blow-off, and you get to spend time with them you actually enjoy.
If you’re REALLY sensitive and know you can’t handle it, then just say “No thanks.”
Q Why can’t I sleep after watching a scary movie?
A As you settle down to sleep, there are no distractions for your mind, it’s just you and your thoughts. It seems as though you are looking at your thoughts through a big magnifying glass.
Whatever you fear, you will be reminded of — it’s just a primitive part of your mind protecting you against what you saw as danger. If you react with anxiety to your thoughts, your body makes adrenaline as part of the “fight or flight” reaction. This will keep you awake and stop you sleeping. Then a vicious cycle of more thinking, more anxiety and so on.
To prevent this happening, you need another focus and to stay relaxed. To do this, play the famous lullaby tune as soon as you get into bed. Put your attention on the music. This will give your mind something to focus on and the calming effect of the music will help you relax. When it’s time to sleep, use the relaxation technique (tip 5) to keep your mind off scary thoughts.
If you wake in the night, remember, “it’s just a movie, no real danger” and then immediately use the relaxation technique again until you go back to sleep.
Q What about movies that are based on true stories?
A Saying a movie is based on actual events is just a way to get you more scared. An unusual event is often used to make unquestioned false assumptions, distorted, and then built upon further to end up with a story that has zero truth in it. In short, you can safely assume that no scary movie is true. It’s just a silly movie.
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Hi Kayla,
Those movies are NOT based on reality :-) They’re designed to scare you — and movie makers have got better and better at it over the years.
Some movies will say they’re “based on truth.” Well… that phrase gives them scope to throw in ANYTHING they like, so it’s basically meaningless.
I’ve never seen anything that led me to believe that ghosts/demons etc exist. I DO know that the mind is incredibly complex and when we’re tired or freaked out, the mind can play tricks. We can literally “see” things that aren’t there at all.
I remember Derren Brown — a British illusionist, mentalist and skeptic — had a girl TOTALLY convinced she was in a haunted room. She described a sense of fear and dread, and she even felt a hand on her shoulder. But it was ALL done through sensory inputs, by playing sounds and so on. He explained how it was done afterwards — there was nothing “supernatural” about it whatsoever.
By the way I suffered “night terrors” as a young boy, where I would literally see demons etc in my room — or so I thought. But the doctors explained that it was ALL caused by my anxious mental state. And as I got calmer and happier as I grew up, they simply stopped.
So remember… what you’re seeing in the movies is just VERY good makeup and special effects. And I know, because I used to work on movies :-) It’s amazing what they can do, but they’re NOT based on reality. All these movies are designed to do is scare you — that’s it.
Personally, I’d rather fill my head with happy stuff and I definitely recommend everyone else does the same :-)
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hi my name is kayla i’m 21 this year n yh i would like to ask u a couple of questions 1 is ghosts n demons real n 2 is paronarmal activity real and does it realy happen in reality ?
i have been watching paranormal n things like that about all them things but its kinda freeking me out now i dnt know what to believe my head just keeps saying i do believe n then all of a sudden i don’t i know people do believe in this sort of thing but all i wanna know is does it realy happen in real life … if u can get bk to me asap that would be greatfull thanks :)
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hi i watched night mare on elm street for my first scary movie and it terrified me im only ten and i dont feel safe unless im with my family esp at night. its been like a week and it is getting worse i feel like a bother to others and any help would be great.
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Hi Joey,
Well it’s important to feel safe so I think spending more time with family is good for a little while. Remember though that what’s happening to you is just the reaction of a primitive instinct you have, that can’t tell the difference between reality and a movie. So follow all the tips in the article and keep on reminding yourself “it’s just a movie” and distracting your attention away.
It’s good to learn that we can be deeply affected by the things we pay attention to and the things we give meaning to. You’re very young Joey to be watching scary movies. Best to watch stuff that’s made for your age group.
If you keep doing the tips, this will all settle down very soon and you will feel normal again.
Mike
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Thanx i fill much better, i saw human centipede and couldn’t sleep for a month i missed school, i got bad grades,all because of a movie now i fill much much better.but now i cant even watch scary movies or i carry a pair of sicciors with me.now i only watch cartoons.
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I tried the method that emily wrote. Where the director of the movie yells “Cut, Cut!” and it really works. I never watch scary movies because I know what it can do to me. I am already freaked out with what I know about some movies because people tell me the plot even though I tell them I don’t want to hear it, or sometimes I end up reading what a scary movie is about and I get scared. Because of this, I end up sleeping in my mom’s room and I am 13 or watching 50 First Dates or Aquamarine. Don’t worry I am breaking the habit of sleeping in my mom’s room and the movies. I read this article and I created a night routine, it really helps! A suggestion I have is: imagine you are a famous actor or actress starring in your favorite non-scary movie or show while you are in bed. I imagine I am on a Disney Show or whatever.
One thing I never got over though was sleeping with one leg under the cover and the other without one. I read about from a thing about a movie and I still can’t. I never heard about falling asleep with your window open but I can’t do that for some reason. It’s hard for me to tell myself it’s not real and it doesn’t exist. I realize many other people have the exact same problem. Also, how do I find my limit of suspense so I can pick the right movie that WON’T traumatize me? Along with that, what do I do about those chain-link forward text messages with the freaky stories, I never open them anymore, the second I see it explaining scary stuff. I delete it and say to myself I didn’t read it, so it doesn’t count. I find this article very assuring that everything will be okay. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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