How to get rid of unwanted thoughts

© Kees de Vos

A friend of mine is plagued with unwanted thoughts.

He’s been diagnosed with OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and I can tell how bad he is at any given moment by the number of times he calls me — he says I say the same stuff as his psychologist but I’m a lot cheaper! :-)

I mean… this is a guy who is bordering on reckless in many areas of his life but is brought to his knees with fear from thoughts that are totally irrational.

If I told you what they were you’d think it was silly but these silly thoughts dominate his life completely.

I don’t believe in the OCD label, at least not in his case. What I see is an extreme example of the issues we all face — the inability to drive our own mental car, the inability to choose the focus of our attention, the inability to see thought for what it really is…

Roll up! Roll up!

My friend and I have the same conversation over and over…

“How do I get rid of these thoughts?”

“You have to not pay attention. There is only one method — distraction. Pay attention to something else.”

Sounds simple eh? It is simple! The question is — can you do it?

Say you’re walking through a fun-fair when one of the stall holders is giving you the hard sell. We’ve all been there. He’s in your face basically, but you know instinctively that any attention you give him will only make the problem worse. If you even look at him you know he just won’t leave you alone.

Some thoughts can be like that — they’re in your face, they urge you in the strongest possible way to act out a certain thing.

Thought becomes you… unless you watch

I was watching a video clip of Eckhart Tolle the other day… He said:

“We notice only the content; we don’t see the field in which the content happens.”

I remember too, a lecture by Alan Watts who drew a circle and asked his students what the circle was. Some said a ball, some said it was the sun and so on. They were all wrong… it was a hole! We don’t notice the background.

Thoughts and feelings can have amazing power. They suck your attention right in and you have no power to stop it. They suck you in so much that you no longer notice the field (you), only the content (thought/feeling).

That’s the problem my friend has. I’ve told him the solution to his problem a thousand times but he’s struggling to actually do it. His thoughts, backed by his belief have too much power.

And make no mistake; we’re talking a lot of power here. OCD = compulsive = no choice. We all have OCD to some extent. Little or no choice.

Thankfully, over time and with constant practice, things are getting better but it’s a tough road and progress is sure, but painfully slow.

Trauma — useful or dangerous?

In his case, a childhood trauma was the event that started all this mess. Traumatic events have amazing power to affect our unconscious minds and generate fear. This is a good thing.

If you’re walking though the jungle and get attacked by a lion, it’s this very same process that stops you repeating the same mistake again. You learn when to fear a lion attack and that is a good thing!

But if trauma is attached to insignificant events, then those insignificant events take on the fear that should be reserved for lion attacks. Say your parents always fought at the dinner table and caused you to be always in a state of anxiety at meals times, then food would become something to fear, by association.

This initial cause can then be strengthened over the years by your attention until life-stopping phobias can result. Now we have a deep problem that’s really hard to shift.

Still… not paying attention to unwanted thoughts is the true solution. But can you do it?

Finding freedom

First, you have to see the field in which the content takes place. There has to be space between your thoughts. When there is a gap, suddenly you notice the thought arising. There is more chance of your being able to choose, when there is space.

But the real bottom line, the true solution, the therapy of therapies is meditation. This is the practice where you learn how to get space between thoughts — where you notice a thought and can look at it with curiosity.

This is where you learn how to be free, where you learn to say “yes” or “no”, where you learn where the off switch is.

If you have no freedom over your thoughts, then you’re merely a physical puppet of mind-energy — a proverbial “leaf in the wind”, with no control over yourself or freedom at all. It’s like getting into your car, shutting your eyes tight and pressing your foot down on the accelerator…

No, we want to choose where the car goes and be able to steer, surely?

You’d have to be crazy…

The other component to my friend’s problem is belief. Of course, he believes his silly thoughts are true… it’s his own mind generating the fear, so if he didn’t believe his own mind he’d have to admit he was crazy.

There are two problems with this. Firstly, he is not the content of his mind and so secondly, he’s not crazy. His mind is working perfectly to the program. It’s the content, the program, the conditioning, which doesn’t serve him.

So, he is not the content. He would still be himself if he’d not had that trauma as a child. Identification with content is a big problem. We define ourselves by the content, by our experiences. But that’s not us.

Our beliefs, experiences and thoughts are often random programmings of life… interesting, often beautiful, sometimes ugly but they’re not us. They define our personality but that’s not us either. “Persona” is Greek for “mask” did you know?

While we identify with all these things we aren’t free to choose something else…

The solutions…

The belief part has to be dislodged as much as possible by reason. In my friend’s case, explaining to him at length why his fear is irrational opens the door to him letting it go and being motivated to do the not-work of distraction — not paying attention.

If he still truly believed his fear was valid, he would never do what’s required because he would still believe the fear served him. Once the understanding is there — that the fear, or the habit of thought does NOT truly serve your best interests, you’re free to try to get rid of it.

You uproot unwanted thought and fear by practicing meditation. It’s tough to see the process for what it is in everyday life when your mind is bombarded by triggers and sensory input constantly. By making everything quiet you see the process for what it is.

I am the background

Here you are… “I AM”

There is the thought.

The thought happened.

The thought has no power unless I give it more attention.

I have choice.

Unless you’ve ever tried to meditate, you won’t understand how little power you have over thoughts that happen to you.

When I first started meditating over 20 years ago, the very first morning, I had 30 minutes meditation planned — I started off just fine… then 20 minutes later I remembered I was supposed to be meditating!

Twenty minutes!

Lost in thought

Thoughts are somewhat like snooker balls. One crashes into another into another into another without ceasing forever and ever and each thought sucks you in — in a word… hell. There’s no peace to be found here, no now, no joy.

We reap what we sow and thoughts are seeds. If you’re not choosing what you sow, you won’t be reaping what you want.

I can’t meditate… it makes it worse!

My friend won’t do it. He won’t do the not-work. He admits he’s lazy but there’s more to it. When he’s having a few good days there’s no motivation. When hell descends on him he’s highly motivated but often in a state of high anxiety.

By the time the thoughts and feelings have escalated into anxiety it’s virtually impossible to rein it in. You have to nip unwanted thoughts in the bud. Spot them arising and withdraw attention before they trigger big emotions and fears.

By the way, if it’s gone pear-shaped and anxiety takes over, the best thing to do is exercise. You’ve got no chance of calming down when you’re pumped with adrenalin.

Also, when he tries to meditate, he has to face his inner demons close up through what feels like a big big magnifying glass and that feels scary at first. The solution to that is to start with relaxation techniques — get out of “fight or flight” and into “the relaxation response”.

So anyway, I can’t convince him and he’s chosen to attempt to just try and not pay attention. This is the slow route as I said, because it’s difficult to see the process with a thousand thoughts, sensory input and internal triggers going on.

You can’t fight the darkness

Meditation teaches you that attention is where the power is. You cannot try to suppress or fight any thought or feeling. That’s just more attention!

The solution is to notice it, let it be, let it go and choose a different focus.

Put your attention onto something else. As difficult as it is to ignore the fair ground stall holder, that’s what’s required. If you go up to him and scream and shout for him to go away, things are likely to get even nastier :-)

At first it takes every ounce of inner strength to hold your attention onto something else, to ignore the unwanted thought. But as you persist, it gets easier and easier until eventually, the thought has no more power over you.

Ignore thoughts you don’t want and hold onto thoughts you do want. That is power! It’s the power to say yes or no. And the same applies to feelings, which are emotional reflections of thoughts.

“I just wanted to say that since I read this article I have had no issues at all. What you wrote cured me and I am totally amazed by it. I am so impressed with the results, I feel totally different and peaceful.

I have seen so many health professionals over my problems, but none has ever come close to the advice that you give. Thanks Mike you have honestly changed my life.”

— John Woods, Australia

“For the last week I’ve been practicing indifference towards unwanted thoughts + quick and intense shifting of attention to anything else.

When I started doing it, I got relief in few minutes as the quality of fear associated with these recurring thoughts was gone. Within hours I found calmness and peace growing within me.

It took an initial 3-4 days to have full grasp over the method and develop some more understanding. And now my thoughts have become very much reduced in frequency, and they have lost their power and don’t trouble me anymore. And it’s all because of one technique only.

I am sharing my experiences with other people having O.C.D. on internet and telling them about your website and trying to help them as I got it when I needed it the most. Sir, you have changed my life. and all that I can say is THANK YOU.”

— Shivesh, India

Meditation is freedom…

…and that folks, is how you get rid of unwanted thoughts.

Best wishes,
Michael Kinnaird

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612 thoughts on “How to get rid of unwanted thoughts

  1. Ending_OCD

    “the inability to drive our own mental car”.

    This quote is so true for a lot of people. It’s normal for random thoughts to perpetuate in our minds. With meditation, everything eventually stops and you have to make a conscious effort to think about something. This is a big departure from what I’m used to (like many others), but the rewards are amazing. Unwanted thoughts can surely go away through distraction, but I find that to be the slower way. Depending on how deep the mental grooves are, it can take a while for the brain to forget typical habitual patterns and triggers through association. For people that are coping with this problem, the keys to success are full commitment and consistency.

    Ending_OCD

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    1. Michael Kinnaird Post author

      Thank you! I love how quickly you “got it” and how you committed fully and “did it.” Yes, distraction alone is not as effective… it will redirect triggers and remove meaning, but meditation is best to learn to be boss of the mind. Always “listening” is the key, and find time for sit down practice if the mind is stormy (30 minutes a day is ideal), until it’s the natural state. Well done!!

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  2. Ending_OCD

    Amazing. I’ve read so many articles on the internet that tell how to mitigate/possibly eliminate OCD, and they all come down to what Happy Guide says. It’s just funny how the medical field and research try to over-complicate things unnecessarily. In a nutshell, the ways to stop unwanted thoughts and gain freedom/control in our minds are: ignore, don’t care, distract, and listen. OCD no longer has any power over me; the fears are all gone. Progress to full recovery – 97% :).

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    1. Michael Kinnaird Post author

      Totally Ending_OCD, everyone is over complicating it because everyone is trying to “make it,” to stand out, write a book, make money, to have status, be an expert. Another reason for over complication is text-book teaching vs. real insight. Real insight and a real desire to help leads to simplicity because the answers are always simple. Not always easy at first, but at least they are simple. I am soooo happy you found the answers and the FAITH in them enough to do it, through us. Because that tells us that the info we publish WORKS, it gets real results. Thanks!

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  3. kishore1990

    Hi my name is kishore i lives in india…i have thoughts about something unwanted that i want to rid it,that thoughts about its really silly to hear but so worse that something im while talking to my friends i thinks that ”IS HE DIE SOON I CANT HEAR THEM WHAT THEY ARE SAYING SOME THOUGHTS ABOUT THEIR DEAD’S” something like that ”PLS HELP ME SOON DO I NEED ADVICE OR MEDITATION”.i’ll catch you in e-mail

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    1. Michael Kinnaird Post author

      Yes you always need meditation which is practicing Being who you are, and having choice over your attention and what you think, and having choice over what things mean, including thoughts. Nothing has inherent meaning, but we decide what things mean either by conditioning which you haven’t questioned and just accepted or by choice/reflection. You have immediately given this thought importance, meaning. Although you may not know its meaning, you’ve already decided to explore it, that it’s important.

      But if you understand that you have choice over attention, and that nothing has inherent meaning, then you simply ignore what you don’t want to give attention to. No attention, and it doesn’t exist for you does it?

      A thought can come into mind because of past meaning and attention, or may have embedded subliminally from a movie, or your culture, a thousand different ways, so they are not always personal. Something you experience in a heightened state embeds easily, fear and anxiety around the subject has the same effect.

      So yes, meditate, very important, and remember that the more the mind is disturbed, the more you should meditate and practice “no-mind,” become more aware. Then be aware that you always have choice of attention (if not, meditate more), and that thoughts mean what you say they mean, and you can give them more attention or ignore, and that attention or not, is the volume control for thoughts. As you practice a thought it becomes easier to recall, it becomes habitual, conditioned.

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  4. sarina

    Hi Mike,

    Sometimes when I realize I have unwanted thoughts, I just let them be and they go away on their own. When I notice they are gone/ check and realise they are gone, it gives me a lot of confidence that I am doing the right thing and I continue to keep practice being mindful when I want. Is this the correct way to recovery?
    when you said its ‘virtually impossible’ in your article, did you mean it is ‘hard’ for people who have not really practiced letting thoughts be, to be able to let thoughts be and go if the thought has changed into anxiety? I find that sometimes I do let myself get overwhelmed by my thoughts and they do become anxiety, but even if the thoughts or feeling do become anxiety, I just label them as ‘just a thought’ and/or let them be, then I realise the thoughts just go on their own again and the anxiety is gone I am not anxious again. I dont have to physically exercise for this to happen either. When you said in your article it is ‘virtually impossible rein them in'(when you have let the thoughts become anxiety), you mean it is ‘harder to’, but not ‘impossible’, correct?
    If you agree with both my statements and/or questions, please just answer yes.
    Kind regards,
    Sarina

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    1. Michael Kinnaird Post author

      Hi Sarina,

      Sometimes when I realize I have unwanted thoughts, I just let them be and they go away on their own. When I notice they are gone/ check and realise they are gone, it gives me a lot of confidence that I am doing the right thing and I continue to keep practice being mindful when I want. Is this the correct way to recovery?

      Yes, essentially. Being mindful, aware, we can notice thoughts pop in contrast to a quiet mind, a choiceful state, rather than habitual mind-chatter, and then ignore the unwanted thoughts which tells the unconscious mind that the thought isn’t important. It’s the meaning we attach to thoughts that determines what happens, so ignoring is giving the meaning “don’t care” which is the right meaning if you want it to stop coming.

      When you said its ‘virtually impossible’ in your article, did you mean it is ‘hard’ for people who have not really practiced letting thoughts be, to be able to let thoughts be and go if the thought has changed into anxiety?

      Yes, if it’s not nipped in the bud, it becomes harder, and as you say, if letting thoughts be hasn’t been practiced, the process of creating the anxiety plays out automatically. Then the body produces adrenaline etc and we go into a flight or flight state.

      I find that sometimes I do let myself get overwhelmed by my thoughts and they do become anxiety, but even if the thoughts or feeling do become anxiety, I just label them as ‘just a thought’ and/or let them be, then I realise the thoughts just go on their own again and the anxiety is gone I am not anxious again. I dont have to physically exercise for this to happen either. When you said in your article it is ‘virtually impossible rein them in'(when you have let the thoughts become anxiety), you mean it is ‘harder to’, but not ‘impossible’, correct?

      Sounds like you are doing it right. Just watching the reaction, the anxiety form, isn’t being it, it’s watching it. If we see it as old stuff just playing out, old meanings and reactions, and understand it will stop coming in time, we can just let it be, keeping the attitude of indifference. Noticing fully in awareness and releasing it, done as it forms, and staying indifferent, allows you to return to a normal state quickly.

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  5. ori

    Dear Michael
    I read your article about unwanted thoughts and I would appreciate if you could answer me a few questions:

    For about 16 years I have suffered from anxiety and obsessive thoughts but not as regular as the classical OCD thoughts. I will not start with all the history and the evolution of these thoughts, but I will describe you shortly what is happening with me today.

    When I’m out driving my car – when I see exhaust pipe I immediately feel distressed. I feel that my mind is focused on the exhaust as not as it does with all other parts in the back of the vehicle. I can drive for two hours and it still bother me (I think that once the distress begins it is only getting worse over time, so even after I drive, I still feel bad for many hours during the day). How can I not pay attention to this “thoughts” and how can I ignor the exhaust pipes without avoiding them which can just increase thr distress in the long term?

    Another “Thought” that bother me is whenevere I look at a men groin (with pants) I feel bad ( it is almost the same pattern as with the exhaust pipe, howevere there might be some sexual association)

    In the last six weeks I began to fear from wall sockets…. It started while i was running on a treadmill, just next to a wall socket that the treadmill was connected to, and it started to bother me. I apparently resisted to that thought, but of course with no success, so now wall socket can put me in acute distress. It does not always happen, for the moment I’m sitting in my room and behind me there is a socket but I don’t think about it and it does not bother me, but for example when I am coming in the morning and went into my room, often the question will arise in my mind: “Is the socket bothers me or not or what is going on with the socket.” When I want to run on the treadmill, I feel really a sense of resistance, a desire to avoid the feeling that come when I am espoused to that situation. Of course I never give up and avoid, but then when I get on the treadmill I feel overwhelm with very unpleasant feeling and it is not quite clear to me, what is the thought behind. I feel some struggling, a thought about that socket and some resistance to it, but nothing else.
    I don’t need to convince my self that that “thoughts” are irrational beacuse I know there’s no reason to be afraid of car exhaust pipe or wall socket and there is nothing behind that “thought” ( maybe only the fear for the OCD itself). It is also clear to me that no catastrophe or disaster are going to happen as a result of something to do with that thoughts.
    So again how can I not pay attention to something that I see infront of my eyes and immediately cause me distress and anxiety?

    Please Help

    Best regards

    Ori

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    1. Michael Kinnaird Post author

      Hi Ori,

      Well you understand your attention to these things isn’t serving you, so that makes it easier in the sense there is no convincing you required in order to let go. Resisting doesn’t work, as you’ve discovered. What works is ignoring consistently, putting attention elsewhere, and having a don’t care attitude… indifference. So on the level of your mind, it’s very simple, be indifferent and remove attention consistently.

      There are many other things you should be doing too, as you say there is a pattern here. And these behaviours occur within a high level of “general fear volume” where you perceive life as potentially threatening, which puts you on constant alert. That is how fear of wall sockets happens.

      The reasons behind that are multifactored and uniquely individual. But many things like regular meditation, good sleep, relaxation techniques, anti-inflammatory diet, good nutrition every day, being very organized. All these things move you into confidence in yourself and a high level of physical brain health. Your brain will function better, and your sense of self control will improve.

      So there is what to do in the moment, and there is your lifestyle and habits, including thought habits that create the environment and mood within which these things happen.

      Everything you need to do to optimize your lifestyle is covered in our book Happy Guide and it only takes an hour to read it. So my recommendation for you is to do that first, understand the big picture and take steps to improve your health habits as well as your thought habits.

      When you perceive threat, the mind runs the fear program. So be sure to consistently tell your unconsciousness mind by your attitude of indifference, that there is nothing to fear if you want to get rid of it. Any other reaction than indifference and removing attention is giving MEANING, which will create a response you don’t want. Be patient in allowing the fears to go, and you just stay utterly consistent in your indifference, even if anxiety is triggered, because you see what it is, you see it’s not serving you, and you don’t care to give more attention.

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      1. ori

        Dear Michael,
        Many thanks for your prompt reply, it is not obvious, and I really appreciate it.
        I’d be happy for a few more clarifications:
        1. In regard to wall sockets or groins, I can understand how should be my approach – “do not care” and I can also understand how to divert my attention from them: When I see a wall socket or groin, I have no problem shifting my gaze deliberately from it and then diverting my attention into something else. However, with exhaust pipe it is much more complicated. While I am driving, I can’t look away from the road or from the vehicles in front of me. Furthermore, if I try to focus on another part of the back of the vehicle, my brain still gets the exhaust pipe from the corner of my eye… And when I see the exhaust in my eyes it is almost impossible to divert attention from it.
        2. How am I supposed to divert attention from wall sockets, groins or exhaust pipes without doing avoidance which is well known as anxiety amplifier in the long term? (As I explained, for me everything usually starts with my sight – I see the triggers (wall sockets, groins or exhaust pipes) and then the anxiety – thoughts cycle start. (I hope my question is clear…).
        3. What do you think about exposure therapy? With my CBT therapist I am working on exposure. I should practice exposure on several levels:
        A – spontaneously – whenever I come across a trigger (and I even spouse to look for it deliberately) – I should look at it and just ask that the anxiety feeling or unwanted thoughts will come again and again, converting them from being involuntary to voluntary.
        B – On regular and organized practice – every day I try to expose myself to exhaust pipes for example – by sitting in my car behind another vehicle while observing and focusing its exhaust or by watching a video on YouTube which captured different car exhaust pipes. I practice it for almost 60 min every day.
        The same way I espouse myself to wall sockets or to groins.
        During these exposures, my anxiety level only slightly increase and I often feel bad during the practice as same as I felt just before it. Is such practice is not actually against everything you have said? – Practice that give meaning to those thoughts? Or is it the way to bring these thoughts to be meaningless in the end? I am so confused…
        4. I often wake up at night with anxiety, sometimes undefined and sometimes with thoughts about the wall socket above my head. In this situation I find it very hard for me to shift my attention because it’s the middle of the night and I’m not really in the middle of doing something else to focus on… what should I do? (You also wrote to me that I need to sleep well, it is quite clear to me, but what should I do when anxiety reached such a pitch that it greatly affects the quality of sleep and have already created a vicious cycle?)
        5. During very bad days (that are quite common) when I feel bad from the moment I open my eyes (even without any trigger), I find it very difficult to approach the triggers with “don’t care” attitude because the distress is so intense and it also very hard to divert my attention, so what I should do in such situation?
        I’d be happy if you could give some examples to help me with the application of the technique you’re talking about, and I apologize for my many questions…

        Best regards

        Ori

      2. James Riddett

        Hi Ori, I’m James, Mike’s brother.

        1. You don’t need to divert your eyes — just the sense of meaning and importance. The “finish line” is that you see exhausts, wall sockets and anything else “normally”. That is, with no sense of importance or meaning. So you’re going to be calmly non-reactive, indifferent, whenever you see an exhaust. You can be 100% confident in this non-reactive approach because you know, logically, that the reaction is irrational. In other words, you know that nothing bad will happen if you remain non-reactive.

        2. You can’t live your whole life in a state of “avoidance”. Not only does this make life difficult, it also adds meaning and importance to the things you’re avoiding. Instead, we want to remove all meaning and importance from the triggers, so that you don’t care that they’re there. You remove meaning and importance by being non-reactive.

        3. I imagine your therapist is trying to de-sensitize you to the triggers, using repeated exposure. This can work both ways. It’ll either keep them on your “radar” (because of all the attention) or it can make you utterly bored of looking at them, and therefore completely *non-reactive* to them. The “finish line” is the same — complete indifference, non-reactiveness to triggers. Then, they’re no longer triggers, they’re back to normal… they’re just everyday items that get naturally ignored.

        Personally, I would go straight to the finish line — ignore, be indifferent, be non-reactive. Be consistent with that approach and before long, you’ll automatically *not* notice triggers. Remember, it’s *you*, through your attention, that have made sockets, groins and exhausts important and meaningFUL. It’s also *you* that will now make them UNimportant and meaningLESS, by removing your attention, by being completely indifferent towards them; just as you would toward anything you don’t care about.

        4. Check out this article. To help you sleep, click here to download the famous lullaby tune by Brahms. Relaxing soundtracks like waves crashing on the beach would also be very good. If you wake up, use this relaxation technique: Put all your attention into your feet, feel your feet tingling and relax them, then move through every part of your body doing the same thing until you fall asleep. If you become wide awake, perhaps lose yourself in a good book. When your eyelids start getting heavy, switch off your bedside lamp.

        5. The key is to be non-reactive. Notice the emotional reaction within yourself, but don’t “become” it. This is the difference between “I notice some anxiety in me” and “I am anxious”. Notice it and just let it be. Refocus on what you’re doing. In other words, you pay it no mind.

        Number 5 leads me nicely into the most important point of my answer. The true answer, the *only* true answer, is to ensure that your whole lifestyle is such that these issues simply don’t occur. Believe me Ori, your issue is a symptom of a lifestyle that is currently not, to some extent or other, geared towards health and happiness.

        For example, ideas about social status, career success, meeting people’s expectation etc etc can cause a constant kind of low-level tension. It’s a short hop from that state to the type of issue you’ve described. Another example: a simple food intolerance can make you agitated, tired, irritable, paranoid, defensive… This can be very subtle but the cause and effect is very real; and believe me food intolerance is extremely common because of all the wrong foods we eat these days.

        These are just two simple examples — many people have *multiple* factors present in their life — and so it’s very easy to create the conditions for issues such as yours to show up. Sometimes these issues are physical, sometimes they’re mental. In fact, they are the same — everything is cause and effect. When you correct your whole lifestyle, you change the conditions of your life. You literally change from a set of conditions where issues and problems crop up, to one where you are simply happy and healthy.

        So as Mike mentioned in his reply, it’s very important that you read Happy Guide. It only takes an hour and is the true answer to your problem — and almost any other problem that you will encounter in your life. Get your whole lifestyle geared towards health and happiness Ori and these issues will simply not exist.

        Best wishes,
        James

  6. Ending_OCD

    Hi Ori,

    I couldn’t agree more with what Mike and James have told you. I used to suffer from unwanted thoughts and anxiety, and even underwent psychotherapy (CBT through ERP) to solve my issues. But in the end, everything does boil down to what Happy Guide prescribes. It works – trust me. Do yourself a favour and read it. I’m cured and better than ever.

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  7. ann

    hello i suffer from ocd negative thoughts and panic attacks even though i know the thoughts arent real or true i cant stop believing them and getting so scared that it causes a panic attack i feel wont go away cause the thoughts i am scared every day cause this is a struggle for me i cry cause all i want is it to go away im living in fear everyday not knowing how to stop it and make them go away im scared to get on meds cause of the side effects and i have panic attacks when i try anything to help me i dont even realy eat anymore cause of a thought i have which i have seen maybe with me not eating right could made this worse im just really scared and want help please anything can help thankyou

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    1. James Riddett

      Hi Ann,

      Don’t worry, meds are NOT the answer — we will get you sorted entirely naturally. So stick with me ok? :-) If at any stage, there’s anything you don’t understand or are unclear about, just let me know. Ok, first things first, please have a careful read-through of this article that explains all the factors involved with unwanted / obsessive thoughts…

      http://happy.guide/2013/12/11/big-picture-unwanted-thoughts

      And then this one, which focuses on the causes of, and solutions to, anxiety and worry…

      http://happy.guide/2009/12/12/anxiety-and-worry

      As you can see from these articles, there are things you can do right away, in the short-term, to help yourself and get relief :-) In the long-term, it’s about changing the conditions of your life, so that these types of issues don’t even pop up. Instead, you’ll simply be happy; pretty much all the time :-)

      Have a good thorough read-through of those two articles Ann, so you can get a really good, clear sense of where this problem has come from, as well as the clear answers for being happy again. And as I say, don’t be shy if you have any questions. We’ve got you until you’re happy again :-)

      Best wishes,
      James

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