Ahsan asks…
“The progress is ok, but I need a finishing touch to really end this. By finishing touch I mean a killer to really end the whole of it. The thoughts are an “on and off” kind of situation and sometimes I am able to ignore but sometimes they still bother me.
It’s happened before that I think I have found a solution and then these thoughts get back again. The problem is that I am still feeling uncomfortable. I want to feel free, relaxed and light but there is still a kind of mental barrier.”
Please, please understand that this progress is immensely important. You should be overjoyed at this progress.
There is no killer other than “no importance — distract”, provided any supporting beliefs have been deconstructed — which is the case with you, since you know these thoughts are silly.
This simple method IS the killer but please, please be patient, consistent and calm about applying it…
KNOW that this method will result in the end of these unwanted thoughts that have plagued you for so long and that this knowledge and feeling will give you the calmness you need.
On and off is wonderful. Much easier to deal with on and off. When they come, simply notice the thought forming, give no importance and distract, remove attention back to what you were doing…
Relax, seriously. DIRECTION is everything and progress means the right direction. If you get frustrated, that is more attention. If you get disturbed that is more attention and you risk ramping the whole thing up again.
Stay calm and faithful, apply the method with absolute consistency and you will see the end of this — the forgetting of unwanted thoughts.
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“no importance — distract. The solution is to notice it, let it be, let it go and choose a different focus. Ignore thoughts you don’t want and hold onto thoughts you do want.”
there are one that you wrote. mike i am confused, is it i wil give no importance then distract myself to other things? and one more thing would i notice it or ignore?? i am sorry if i kinda really confused. help mike
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hey mike, i just wanna share something to you.but i think i will make it short because it will be to long if i will give all the details.
here it goes. uhm before variety of unwanted thoughts are/were distracting me for many years. there were so many of them! as in many! and i couldnt stop thinking of it or get those thoughts out of my head. but now, i think i really know. and definitely know how to solve this issue because of this article and the answers you respond to all the people you helped. it made things clear. i know i will be okay soon, maybe very soon or even after i wrote this. Man thank you again so much, may God bless you. :)
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That’s really wonderful to hear Lorenz, let me know how things pan out for you, and if you’re ever confused, come back and read all the articles and comments to get clear again.
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hey mike i thought this article was published a very long time ago and thought you’re not gonna able to respond, but you did respond and thanks for that. uhm to be honest what i experienced these past days were like on and off. but i know i am gonna be okay, and one thing i dont know if still gonna ask something, because everything written here is what i need which is good i just need to read it.
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Great Lorenz, yes the article and Q/A in the comments covers everything you need to know. Good luck!
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Thanks Lorenz, you’re very welcome. Don’t care, yes. It’s so easy to trip up over that one and most people do — giving meaning to stuff they don’t want. Good luck — let me know how you get on.
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hey mike kinnaird, you’re such a smart and amazing person. your article made me realize what i was doing before on how to deal my unwanted thoughts was not healthy and right for me. but now i found the right solution and methods from your article. now i know that it is simple but needs consistency to give it no importance (a don’t care attitude) i really learned a lot. thank you so much! :)
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