Ahsan asks…
“The progress is ok, but I need a finishing touch to really end this. By finishing touch I mean a killer to really end the whole of it. The thoughts are an “on and off” kind of situation and sometimes I am able to ignore but sometimes they still bother me.
It’s happened before that I think I have found a solution and then these thoughts get back again. The problem is that I am still feeling uncomfortable. I want to feel free, relaxed and light but there is still a kind of mental barrier.”
Please, please understand that this progress is immensely important. You should be overjoyed at this progress.
There is no killer other than “no importance — distract”, provided any supporting beliefs have been deconstructed — which is the case with you, since you know these thoughts are silly.
This simple method IS the killer but please, please be patient, consistent and calm about applying it…
KNOW that this method will result in the end of these unwanted thoughts that have plagued you for so long and that this knowledge and feeling will give you the calmness you need.
On and off is wonderful. Much easier to deal with on and off. When they come, simply notice the thought forming, give no importance and distract, remove attention back to what you were doing…
Relax, seriously. DIRECTION is everything and progress means the right direction. If you get frustrated, that is more attention. If you get disturbed that is more attention and you risk ramping the whole thing up again.
Stay calm and faithful, apply the method with absolute consistency and you will see the end of this — the forgetting of unwanted thoughts.
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Your writings are excellently condensed and of the utmost value particularly when I have done a vast amount of reading concerning the issue of uncontrollable, abhorrent thoughts that prevent me from eating without acquiring indigestion (severe). It’s difficult to understand why you feel that meditating would better enable me to control stray thoughts. Is there no workbook that would take me through this vital beginning pattern of control over my obsessiveness? Thank you so very much. George
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Hi George,
Work book… yes there is. Happy Guide has everything you need to know and do. And we can help you with questions about putting it into practice and how to apply it to your situation once you’ve read it.
All the best,
Mike
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hi mike,
plz can u send me the happy guide file again my windows got corrupted and it got deleted
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hi mike,
i know these thoughts are not real and there is some problem with my thinking procedure but what ever it is the bottom line is that they have ruined my life , after all i am a human and when these thoughts keep lingering 24/7 you are bound to get disturb , i think i have done my best to ignore them and at times i have felt relieved but i may be a weak hearted person i still get disturb because its not easy to ignore and distract every time, i am getting more desperate now because i have had the solutions and had good results but i dont know what i do wrong that they get back ?
i know it would be frustrating for you but now i am in state of hopelessness ,plz reply mike ,thnx
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Stop caring that they come back otherwise they will never go. You make a big big deal out of it, you feel hopeless… try indifference and distract. You say “I have had the solutions and and had good results” well that is cause for hope no? As I said, direction is everything and you only needed to keep going in that direction using the same method.
Every time you fall into despair you ramp it all back up and empower it with meaning.
Read this whole post and comments over and over… it will crystalize things in your mind, it will draw the desire and will to follow through. It’s no good me repeating all this when it’s already written. Put the energy in to get yourself out. Get clear, get resolute and end this using the very simple method.
They come back because habits are very subtle and are triggered in very subtle ways but that need not distrurb you because you have the power of yes or no. You have the power of choice and you choose with your attention.
The fight is for your ATTENTION. Don’t fight the thoughts, that empowers them, fight for your attention.
It’s simple… whatever is unwanted… be indifferent, give no importance, distract — rivet attention elsewhere.
And alter the MOOD out of which thoughts arrive by changing your lifestyle and lifting your mood.
OCD sufferers always want me to talk them around — to get them to a place of clarity and resolve. But it’s impossible for me to do that for each and every person. That’s why we’ve done this Ahsan. You need to read what has already been said over and over if you need a will-power injection.
There’s no new information — it’s all in Happy Guide. That’s the big picture of how to be happy — all the ways that WORK together. distraction is only a part and as powerful as it is, as you have seen, the best results come from doing it all.
You have all the solutions now Ahsan, and they are very simple. Difficult AT FIRST but effortless AT LAST because our brains are wired for habits. Create habits that have the outcome of health, create habits that step back from thinking and wow, the difference is night and day to how you feel.
Resolve to do it calmly, keep reading what I’ve written… in Happy Guide, in this post. There’s no new information Ahsan, you have all you need. Now put it to work consistently, be totally clear and you will stop ramping it all up again. Go straight to the finish line by being CONSISTENT.
Good luck!
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I am holding your desire for you Ahsan. I know what you want. You can release everything, you can let go. I have it. I will not let go of it… you can let go. plz elobrate whole of this i didnt understood what u meant?
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Ah ok… You have this “perceived” problem that isn’t real in the sense that if I could wave a magic wand and stop you thinking about this, nothing bad would happen at all. You would remain in your religion and never question it.
So I want you to do that. Never question it. But you cannot because you think there is a problem… and there is… but only in your thought habits. I need you to be in a place where you can release and you can’t do that if you still think there’s a problem.
So I say “I have your problem here” “I know what you want and won’t let you forget it” That way you know I am holding your desire — I won’t let what you fear happen because I will check up on you. So now you are free to let go.
Anything that prevents you from releasing must be addressed. You must be free to let go.
I’m saying “I have your fear right here Ahsan and I will keep my eye out… you don’t have to.” “Trust me… you can forget it.”
You see?
Are you free to let go? If not, why are you holding on? What is stopping you let go?
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mike plz would u elobrate it a bit i didnt understood sorry?? plz some datail needed of wat u meant?
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Which part do you need me to elaborate?
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