Happy Guide reader Clair Whitty writes a “Natural Lifestyle” column for The People newspaper in Ireland.
Clair enjoyed instant results with Happy Guide but recently ran into a “holiday habit” problem. Below is what she told her readers. I’ve replied in the comments at the end…
As many of you know I have had really good success using the guidance and tips from a book called Happy Guide. I know that many of you bought the book and I hope that you had the success that I had…
However, we are all different and we need different tools to help us on our journey. Therefore I am aware that not all of you will have had success using the tools found within the pages of Happy Guide.
For me Happy Guide was perfect, it helped me to break the habits of a lifetime, eating sugar, chocolate and sweet things after my dinner. It also helped me to give up coffee. I must have kept this up for 6 months. I was delighted with myself.
Then, I was on holiday and I thought to myself that I would have one coffee. One would not be so bad. I deserve it — I am on holiday! But… as you are guessing this was foolish…
I went ahead and had the coffee and I haven’t been able to give it up since. And of course, now I am thinking that Happy Guide is stupid, and I have told all my readers to go and buy a copy. So I have spent a few months guilt tripping myself, eating my chocolate after my dinner and having my three cups of coffee a day. I deserve them, so why should I have to give them up?
Then one day I made a discovery; I had a brain wave. I remembered that Mike and James, the authors, told me that I should re-read Happy Guide when I get stuck. I also remembered them telling me that it is the grooves that we keep falling into and it is these grooves, or patterns of behaviour that we need to break.
It is recognising these grooves for what they are and avoiding slipping into them again and again. I needed to change my focus away from the food and into the grooves. I realised that I needed to sort out why I want the chocolate, why I deserve it and why I deserve the coffee — and to think about what else I can reward myself with.
But more importantly… why do I need a reward? I automatically go into the “poor me” mode when I am tired or if I have done a lot of work. I then deserve the goodies!
So with a lot of thought and anxiety around putting my readers astray I am now confident that Happy Guide is indeed worth every penny that you will spend. You may not succeed the first time or the second time but keep reading it again and again until you find your groove — you can do it.
I have done it again.
Thank you Mike and James!
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You’re very welcome Clair! I’ve replied to you below. Many thanks for letting us republish your article.